I have a will and a medical directive. My sons are in charge of it and I feel they will distribute things equally and there won’t be much arguing. I am not sure I have much that either of them would want other than the money they would get from selling everything. It is the responsibility of every person to keep their will updated and clearly state who gets what and who doesn’t get anything, if that is what you want, or trouble will happen. I know because my uncle was trouble.
My uncle liked to get married. He did it a few times. Wife number 2 was a great woman and a hard worker but the 2 of them were not suited. She was a yoga fan and a vegetarian. He got exercise taking his empties back to the Beer Store and he loved meat. He only ate 2 vegetables – onions and potatoes. It was the second marriage for both of them but not the last for either of them.
They separated after a few years but she wished to keep it a secret from her very ill mother. Her mother was in a long-term care facility because of some serious physical problems but she was mentally sharp. My uncle, at the request of my ex-aunt, would visit his elderly ex-mother-in-law very occasionally and act like everything was just fine.
My mother visited the old woman from time to time and the old woman told my mother that she knew her daughter and my father’s brother were no longer together but she was going along with the charade to make her daughter happy. The old woman died without updating her will.
This story would end well if my uncle was a gentleman or only out for cash but he was out to cause trouble. The ex-mother-in-law had left her estate to the both my ex-aunt and my uncle. My uncle didn’t just want half of the VALUE of the estate he wanted half of everything. He took half of the old woman’s jewellery. My ex-aunt offered him a generous cash payment for the jewellery but he drove around our part of the province selling the different pieces to different pawn shops and jewellery stores.
My uncle went on to have an ex-wife number 3 but I never met her. My mom had had enough after ex-wife number 2 and she was not interested in meeting anymore wives. My uncle is gone now. He had to use a motorized wheelchair in the last years of his life. One of his favourite hobbies in his last years was to drive his wheelchair to the local car dealerships on Sundays when they were closed and feed the sea gulls loves of bread. He liked to cause trouble.